Let’s stop and look at things from a different perspective. What are you focusing on? Are you focusing on putting all your energy and attention on why this is happening to you? Why are they doing this? I don’t feel nice, I don’t deserve this, I don’t like this- focusing all your time and energy on your likes and dislikes. In the realm of the human experience it is natural to feel all these emotions, but we’re going to use these as stepping stones today.
You came here to experience things to help you learn the lessons that you decided to learn in this lifetime.
Let’s do some things together:
Sit back and look at one example, one person or situation that is bothering you right now. Think of the one thing that you are struggling with right now, that thing that you’re trying so hard to understand and get through. One thing right now that is making you feel like it’s an obstacle, it’s making you feel stuck and you’ve tried doing a lot of things to help yourself and that other person or situation but nothing changes permanently-the issue just comes back again after a bit of time.
OK, now have that one example in your mind and look at everything you’ve done so far to help yourself and/or to help them or the situation. Now think about this, what have you learnt so far from it about yourself? Put the struggle aside and the fact that you don’t like it aside. What have you started to learn from it? Has it started to make you stronger, more independent perhaps? Maybe you’ve begun to learn about giving the love to yourself more, you’ve begun looking inward more or it’s got you thinking about what this life is all about perhaps? Has it started teaching you patience? Has it started shifting your perspective? Now that you’ve started loving yourself more and putting focus on yourself more, do you see that you’ve started learning about what it’s like to work from the heart? You may have started practising forgiveness and acceptance. You’ve been learning about ego and the relationship with your own ego.
Look at all these things you have started to learn from this uncomfortable person or situation. Now look at it this way—how wonderfully has our loving Universe put this in your path for you so that you could learn all these valuable lessons. How could you possibly have truly learnt and felt the depth of it otherwise? How beautifully is that person or situation playing their part in their contract with you, to help YOU grow. Just look at your growth in this. That person or situation has played out their part so perfectly in your life to enable YOUR expansion and knowledge of your-Self. Source is the most loving and unconditional love there is- and it lovingly planned this so-called chaos with you. Do you see the beauty in this chaos? Without chaos and constriction how can anyone know expansion? This is the part of living in a Universe of ‘duality.’ You cannot truly know one thing without truly experiencing it’s opposite.
Let’s say you have in your life, a person whom you truly love and another person who you perhaps have less affinity with. The first condition is teaching you how to love and also how to detach, because detaching from that love bond you created will be very difficult for you. The second condition is teaching you unconditional love and forgiveness, because it is easier to have less care about that person such that caring, loving and forgiving them will be very difficult for you. So where is your resistance in all this? Your resistance lies in the difficult aspects of it doesn’t it?- but that is exactly where your growth and expansion lies. When you start releasing your resistance, you start breaking down the barriers you created to protect the ego’s idea of Self.
The Universe or Creation is always loving you and protecting you. Source is so loving and pure; it loves you so much that it lovingly placed these things in your path with you and for you so that you could experience your true Self in this learning, growth and expansion. Then, there comes the ‘knowing,’ that everything has its beautiful place in your path. It’s up to you HOW you face your fears, because these fears you now see, are merely illusions to set you off-course from your path of Knowing (if you resist). In this way fear serves as a reminder tool to look inwards and overcome your blocks by letting go of all the things inside you that are holding you back from knowing yourself. You CAN come to a point where you eventually stop, breathe and look at the person or situation and you’ll genuinely say “thank-you” from your heart to it or them “for helping me to grow and come to this awareness of knowing of my Self; helping me to love myself more, for teaching me patience, self-worth, forgiveness, unconditional love and all these other qualities. There could have been no better way, because it was so loud, in my face and I could not escape it.”
The truth is we are all LOVE and we all just want to be loved. That is the only truth, the ONLY thing that is real. When you look back at your life now, you can say that I saw those situations and people and I made the most of the lessons that were set up to teach myself all of this. In this living state, you are looking at your life and finding out the lessons and purpose. You are doing it now so that you can expand further whilst you are here.
Do you see the change in perspective? Zoom right out to see the higher perspective and with this comes your true freedom. This is the art of coming back to balance within yourself.
“All the world’s a stage” – Shakespeare.